BIL is free to stay at a hotel, but he isn't.

November 26th, 2008 at 06:08 am

I spoke to my sister last night and told her that if her husband wanted to stay in a hotel that would be fine with us and we wouldn't be offended. She said he would be fine at the house and that she didn't want to spend the money on a hotel for him. So, it looks like they are all staying.

I am kicking the kids out of their rooms for the next couple of days. They will sleep downstairs on the pull out couch with their cousin. My sister will take Emma's rooma and BIL will take Aidan's rooms. That way they have the whole upstairs to themselves. If BIL wants to get away from the chaos he can go upstairs.

Thanks to everyone who offered advice. I thought over the concept that he is just an introvert, but that isn't really it. He comes from a wealthy family and has said that my house isn't nice enough for him to stay in.

To Jim from Ohio- after 15 years of marriage and countless "relations" with highschool students behind my sister's back, for which he got fired from teaching for, I think I have the right to be a little judgemental. And believe me he knows where I stand. I try to make everything as pleasant as possible for my sister's sake since she is all the family I have left but BIL makes it very difficult. Personally I think he is lucky to even be invited. If that makes me a bad person, so be it.

Hope everyone has a good holiday and that there is peace at your gatherings.

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5 Responses to “BIL is free to stay at a hotel, but he isn't.”

Koppur Says:
November 26th, 2008 at 06:49 am

Hope your holiday is fun! Happy Turkey Day!
lizajane Says:
November 26th, 2008 at 07:17 am

Sounds like you've come up with a good solution and a nice compromise, giving him space to himself. If he spends the whole time upstairs, it sounds like it will just make your holiday BETTER! And if it's "still not good enough for him", he knows where to find the door. LOL
Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
November 26th, 2008 at 08:34 am

So isn't the pendulum swinging a little far to give them separate rooms in your house?
princessperky Says:
November 26th, 2008 at 11:22 am

I was a bit surprised at the separate rooms for the sister and what I though was her husband?

Why doesn't he just stay home?

Though I did post defending the desire for a hotel, I certainly don't know the fellow, nor wish to defend him.
fern Says:
November 27th, 2008 at 06:45 am

Your BIL doesn't sound like he's worth any more of your worry or time spent trying to please him. I wouldn't do anything special or go out of your way to make him any more comfortable than you would normally do for anyone else. He's the one with the problem, so let him deal with it. As a guest in your home, if that's what he's chosen (over the hotel) than he needs to make the best of it and not be rude. I would be polite but unless required, ignore him and concentrate on enjoying quality time with your sister and nephew and your own family.

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